Valentines Ideas for Him – February 11, 2015

For a while it was becoming big business for people to purchase black roses, dead roses, nasty tasting chocolates and the like to give to ex-girlfriends or boyfriends.  It was intended to hurt the ones who hurt you.  That doesnt seem quite in the Spirit of love.  Christ teaches us a different way to live!

Matthew 5:38-48

38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ 39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. 41 If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. 42 Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.

43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that?48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

Pray for those who are your “enemies” today and share the love of Christ with them.

Now to some ideas for the man in your life.  If you ask most men what they wanted, it would be a similar reply:  “I dont need anything.  I just need your unconditional love.”  BUT, you still probably want to share that in a special way this weekend.  So, I scoured the internet to discover new and exciting gifts for men.  There really arent any.  Socks, coffee mugs, underwear and cologne were listed in almost every article I read.   There is nothing really exciting that I have to share.  But, this I know.  Men, just like women, just want to know that they are appreciated and important.  Actually, men need to hear that much more than women I believe (we have frail egos).  A card with a top ten list of things you love about us will go very far.  But above all TIME.  Find ways to spend time together or even give him some time alone to do what he wants.  I know one of the frustrations I often have is constant interruptions.  They are all for good and legitimate reasons, but I rarely get uninterrupted time.  A gift Cathy once gave me was she took the kids away for the day to allow me to do whatever I wanted.  I loved it and was very productive.  Another thing that a friend of mine once received was the “Honey We’ll Do” list.  You have all heard of the HONEY DO list?  Well, this was a gift from the wife and children of things that they would help with that he normally was in charge of.  For example, he typically was in charge of dusting and vacuuming the house.  They promised to do that for him for a week.  He loved it.  No matter what gift you give him this week, if it is in love, it is enough and will be appreciated.

“Valentines for Her” – February 10, 2015

I remember a friend of mine who had been dating a woman for almost a year and they were about to experience their first valentines together.  He decided not to get her a gift or a card because he said that the day was made up for card companies to make money.  Instead, he wrote his girlfriend a note that proclaimed his admiration of her and said that their relationship was stronger than just one day and he hoped that their relationship did not have to be conformed to just one day of sharing their love.  She had purchased him two tickets to a Packers game.  She ended up taking a friend to the game and broke up with him soon after that.  The next person my friend dated had a lovely homemade card and chocolates on valentines day.

So guys are you struggling for something special and different?  Here are a few ideas:

1.  Clean the house;

2.  Give her a decision free day – you make all the decisions about lunches, dinner, what to do etc.;

3.  CHOCOLATES and FLOWERS are always good;

4.  Send her on a scavenger hunt.  Have everything pre-arranged with the stores and paid for.  First stop:  coffee shop where her favorite tea/coffee is waiting along with a newspaper or magazine and time to read it stress free.  The worker then gives her a note that guides her to the second stop:  A spa where a manicure is ready and paid for, including tip.  The manicurist then gives her a note to send her to the third stop:  lunch at her favorite restaurant where you are waiting to dine with her.    Now, you can add many more stops if you want, but it is a very fun gift.

5.  Do something YOU would never want to do but you know she would like.  Take a painting class together, write her a poem, go see a “chick flick.”  I guess if I were to do this for my wife it would be I would run with her at 5am.  Ouch!

While all of these are great ways to celebrate the day.  My friend did have it partially correct.  We are called to love our spouses EVERY day!  We are to imitate the love of Christ that did not come in one day and was not centered around gifts.  Every day is a day we should celebrate love and act loving to not only our spouses but to the world.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.  -Ephesians 5:25